
“Ask. Tell. Make.” That was the catch phrase of trick trainer Tommy Turvey when he performed at the 2008 horse expo in Timonium, Maryland. Tommy, who is well known as a horse trainer from movies like The Black Stallion, demonstrated to the audience his philosophies on “making” his horses comply with his demands. Yet, as I watched Tommy asking, telling, and then making his horses perform tricks in the arena, a small voice inside of me asked “am I really that different with my horse?”
Over the last 18 months I have chosen to work with and study horses. I began my path with studying the art of natural horsemanship. At an early age I knew I was not attracted to the more traditional methods of working with horses and chose to pursue learning the natural horsemanship principles of working with horses “according to their natural instincts” and through understanding herd behavior. This approach made intuitive sense to me and the techniques are excellent for training a horse that will eventually be safe, calm, and easily adaptable to everything a human being needs from him.
Using natural horsemanship techniques, horse handling goals such as “safety on the trail” and “smooth transitions under saddle” are achieved through techniques like “desensitization” and lots of repetition. Natural horsemanship practitioners like Pat Parelli offer horse owners a “simple” program which outlines the step-by-step path to training a horse “the natural way,” providing the horse owner with lots of information about horse psychology and behavioral patterns along with (in Parelli’s case) “seven games” which are techniques an owner and his horse can master in order to “build connection.”
The “connection” goal, which is the reason, I believe, most people are drawn to horses in the first place, seems to be the most elusive one in natural horsemanship programs. There are a few practitioners who, in my opinion, understand the “connection” element to be a fundamental, and most important, part of being with horses.

Yet even with this understanding, few natural horsemanship practitioners address this question: Can we attain complete connection and harmony with our horses without giving them true freedom of choice in our relationships with them? In other words, is use of any kind of force or coercion ever appropriate in developing a truly connected human/horse relationship?
When I saw Tommy Turvey in January of 2008, I was just beginning to learn the principles and techniques of natural horsemanship. I dismissed the small voice in my head with excuses about the difference between his and my own “intents” and continued my path of study. Since then, I have completed a Level 1 Training Certification in Natural Horsemanship program and bought my own green horse, “Saoirse” (Pronounced Seer-Sha, a Celtic word meaning “Freedom”) to train.
I have been working with Saoirse two hours each day, combining the different methods I learned pertaining to natural horsemanship techniques and working “at liberty” with her.

I have made progress and Saoirse has become significantly calmer, responsive to cues and phase systems, and is gradually becoming more in sync with my energy and projection. Through continuing to practice technique and consistency, I have confidence these and many other aspects of my horse’s behavior will improve and change, resulting in a calm, safe, sweet-natured horse who understands my role as “herd leader.”
A great gift I received from my natural horsemanship training was an awareness of the power of the relationship between me and my horse.

“The relationship comes before everything” my trainer would tell me and in order to get complete connection, “join-up,” and partnership between me and Saoirse, I knew I must foster a relationship built on trust and consistency. These principles have been the core of my beliefs about horsemanship and have been, up until now, what has driven me to ignore the small voice that began at that Expo last January and has continued to get louder ever since.
I have been training my horse using a “phase system.” This system, unlike more “un-natural” forms of training, teaches the horse cues through consequences. If I am teaching a horse to back up, I wiggle the end of my lead line ever so slightly (starting as light as I’d like to end up) gradually (every three seconds) applying more and more pressure until the lead line and metal clip may be smacking the horse under the jaw which causes them to “move away from the pressure” and back up. Eventually, the horse will learn to back up at the slightest wiggle of the lead line because they learn to expect what is coming.
A similar approach is used when lunging the horse in a circle. I will first use my body and projection to “send the horse where I want them to go.” I will give them a soft “feel to follow” by putting tension in the directing hand holding the lunge line. My final phases will be to bring up a carrot-stick (a stick with a long rope at the end of it) or the opposite side of the lead rope with more and more intensity until, the final phase, making contact with the horse’s rump with my stick or lead line to make them move.

The idea behind this method is that it is more humane to the horse because, eventually, the horse will understand this system of requests and consequences which will result in less progressions to the final phase, and, in general, a “light” and responsive horse. Though this system, when used appropriately with patience and without anger and with clarity and consistency, is highly superior to others where trainers will beat the horse into submission without warning, am I not asking with my first phase, telling with my second, and making with a final phase where I am literally inflicting pain on the horse in order to get them to do what I want?
Though I tell myself these “phases” are necessary and best for the horse and that they “settle their minds” and teach “patience,” I still wonder: Is “making my idea his idea” not coercion? Is holding a horse’s head down towards their chest with the reins (after applying the correct “softer” phases, of course) until they “find a release” and soften, not force? Yet what’s wrong with using a system of phases to make a horse do something if eventually it will end in a more docile and safer animal? Isn’t it our duty as humans to make horses safe and compliable to our needs for their own good? Horses are for riding, right?

Through practicing liberty work, watching my trainers play with horses, and reading about other people’s emotional and spiritual experiences with their horses, I have always believed in something deeper and more profound than owning an animal and training it to carry me around. How then could I long for and pursue a meaningful relationship with my horse based on trust and love when I employed techniques of force and coercion as my foundational building blocks?
In order to have a partnership, there must be equality and freedom of choice for both partners. The horse does not have a choice whether or not to be domesticated and cared for by humans. The more I work with horses, the more I have come to believe that they are not our slaves or our possessions or our rightful play-things. Can we really justify that it is physically or mentally in a horse’s best interest to endure long distance running and jumping with a rider, pull heavy carts or carriages, have metal bars placed in their mouths for control, or carry a rider and saddle on long distance trail rides? If I want to share a relationship with my horse that is a true partnership, I have come to believe I must abandon these human-centric ideas of what horses should be for and embrace the magnificence of what the horse is.
